There is some truth to the theory that
dreams have a blunting effect on the emotional trauma caused by an event over
time. During my dark years I never dreamed about my stepfather. I
did however dream about a girl a lot. The lack of stepfather-related dreams
meant that I wasn't fully processing the emotional harm he'd done, making it
harder to move on from the divorce. The girl’s "rejection" was
easier to get over because the dreams I had helped me confront and sort through
my emotions as I was going through them. They weren't repressed by years
of bitterness.
I have been dreaming about my stepfather
more these last few years. As a result, I hardly ever feel the anguish
and bitterness I'd felt for him during my dark years. I've even come to
understand what he did better, and why he did it. This proves to me that
one of the purposes of dreaming is that it provides acceptance for a traumatic
event, in addition to revealing the reason(s) behind it.
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